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Perfectionism in singing
Perfectionism in singing
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BronzeWailer
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Jul 21, 2014
3:41 AM
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Some wise words...
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KingoBad
1503 posts
Jul 21, 2014
7:43 AM
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This guy is a complete failure as a singing teacher...
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Danny
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BronzeWailer
1349 posts
Jul 21, 2014
7:28 PM
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Good one Danny!
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nacoran
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Jul 21, 2014
9:40 PM
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I think, ultimately, that's what killed the last version of my band, or rather the tension between the perfectionist, and the 'lets get something, anything out there'. My feeling has always kind of been that feedback is a key part of learning. Our singer, well, I'll give an example. We wrote a song. He didn't like the love story in it so he cut that part out. I disagreed, but he deleted the only copy unilaterally. (I've become obsessive about keeping copies now). Anyway, the song was still fun to hear, but it didn't have real story running through it. It wasn't the sort of thing that would get stuck in someone's head anymore. He still liked the song. So did I, although not as much as I did before. We went to our little songwriter's group and he asked for opinions. One woman pointed out that it didn't really tell a story. We never performed it again. One negative comment and it was dead.
When we played small open mics where we were the best act he was happy. When we started playing where there were better musicians and we needed to pick up our game he got very frustrated and started finding excuses not to show. Killed the band. Sad thing is, he's great. He has an amazing, distinctive voice. If he did things like taking people up on jamming, following up on offers to play shows, he could be really big.
I get all sorts of OCD problems in my life, but I've managed to somehow to keep it out of my music. I'll get critical of myself when I truly suck, but as long as the crowd likes it I'm happy, while still managing to want to get better. It might be the healthiest part of my life. (It's funny, I don't get particularly nervous getting up on stage, but if I have to sit in a crowded room without friends around I freak out. Go figure.)
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BronzeWailer
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Jul 23, 2014
3:28 AM
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I know what you mean Nate. I have played with guitarists who are much more accomplished musicians than I am, but who have freaked out in a performance context. They were holding themselves to an impossible standard or heard the voices of the imaginary critics before they even played a note.
I know other guys who've been practicing in their bedroom for years but won't jam in public because they are "not ready." You grow by doing things before you are quite ready, in my opinion.
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